10 ways to tame the bridezilla within before your wedding
Even the most cool, calm and collected of gals can quickly morph into a bridezilla if not tamed. And believe us this is not a myth, this is a fact. During wedding planning phase, often the road to one of the best days of your life can actually bring out the worst in us. Here are the top tips to keep the Bridezilla within at bay to better enjoy the lead up to your special day.
1. Focus on the 'we' not the 'me'
Take a good look at your fiancé, this is the person you are going to marry. He is your number one partner in crime through all of this, and therefore he is the first pit stop for communication and delegation. Whilst you may not trust him with the creative side of things, like what exactly an ‘elegant garden party’ theme involves, focus on the skills that he does have which will come in handy. He will know what’s the best 1950’s Mercedes-Benz to hire.
2. Delegation is key
Outside your fiancé, there are many other people who are willing and able to help you with your never-ending list. Identify these lovely people, and delegate tasks to them that you’re comfortable with. If your delivery oozes positivity, then you will find that people generally are excited to help. Your to-do list won’t seem as daunting with their assistance.
3. Use time more wisely
Because time tends to go by quite quickly during the wedding planning process, it’s important not to wish you had more time, but rather use the time you have more wisely. And don’t forget to have fun, this will be one of the rare times in your life where all the focus is on you.
4. Make friends with your vendors
Being friendly to your chosen vendors can make a world of a difference. Remember that each one of them is a piece of the wedding puzzle that you are trying to put together. It could be as simple as a pleasant smiley face at the end of your emails, or complimenting their service or products. Good wedding karma does exist. And that photographer that you’ve just become BFF’s may gain more of an incentive to getting those particular shots you've been dreaming of.
5. Make 'craft night' a thing
If you’ve opted for a heavily DIY wedding, why not set some dates aside for craft nights with your close friends. Whether you need to cut up copious amounts of ribbon or lick over a hundred envelopes, this can turn into a bit of fun rather than a burden. Put on some girly movies, and pop some bubbles whilst you benefit from some extra set of hands.
6. Pretend you're in a movie montage
Whenever you’re feeling flat, just think of your favourite girl-power movie moment and you will be just fine. Think Anne Hathaway in The Devil Wears Prada or Renne Zellweger inBridget Jones Diary. Take that motivation, flip through another 10 bridal magazines and keep on charging towards that beautiful day.
7. Treat yourself
Although both budget and time seems tight, it’s very important to still treat yourself along the way. Tell the fiancé you’re going to look at the venue again for the 10th time but duck off for a swedish massage instead. Clocking off from wedding talk every once a while will keep you sane along the way.
A clear danger zone is the pressure brides to be put on themselves to loose the kilos. But if this is not done in a healthy manner, you might end up loosing your mind instead. It’s no secret that when we’re hungry, we can often be cranky. So for goodness sake, eat! Everyone will thank you for it.
9. Reply on endorphins
Following tip No.8 above, a good bout of exercise will do wonders for you. The key is not to think that you’re too busy or stressed to exercise, rather learn that working out will actually make you plan more productively and feel much better.
10. Inhale - exhale
Last and most certainly not least…breathe! It’s the simplest and yet most effective trick of them all. Go to yoga classes, meditate for 15 minutes in your room, download an app on your phone, or even just turn around, walk into another room and take 10 deep breaths when you’re mother asks if some obscure family friend that you’ve met once in your life has been invited.